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Quick tell me what comes to your mind when you hear the words, "sex toys?"
I am sure that there are many responses. Some will think of these toys as desperate attempts by losers. Some others will think of them as the work of the devil, designed to destabilize the very moral fabric of our society. Still others will find them unimportant and choose to not talk about them.
While all these responses are valid in their own way, there is also a growing school of thought that one needs to think of them as tools, not as toys.
Let us begin at the beginning. We begin by conceding that physical intimacy is an important part of a relationship. If that is the case then the quality of that intimacy must be both emotional as well as physical. For the moment to keep this discussion relevant, let us focus on the physical aspect of that intimacy.
Surely anything that will help in enhancing the quality of that physical experience cannot by itself be bad. If there is something bad, it must be the way a tool is used. The workman, or woman, needs to be blamed, not the tool.
Look at it this way: Suppose I and my spouse are interested in trying out something new and we are completely loyal to each othe
r, is there any harm if we try and use a new technique? And if that technique involves using a physical object or device, called a sex toy, what exactly is the harm?
Are we somehow accepting the principle that sex should not be fun? I am sure that there are religious doctrines that propagate this school of though. With due respect to those schools of thought, let us be clear that we are not getting anywhere if we keep thinking along these conservative ways.
It is seen that the most rigidly conservative societies are the ones where the greatest amount of depravity thrives. It is just hidden behind the deceitful curtains of hypocrisy.
So, I would recommend that if you are comfortable with the thought, do broach the topic of sex toys with your partner. Ignoring the short initial period of initial hesitation, I think that you might just have found yourself a great new exciting medium to rekindle the physical experience.
And note that though I have been talking about the physical experience, it is a little more than just that. It is also emotional. For instance, would it be tough for you to accept that great physical relationship can also heighten the emotional part of the relationship?
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